by John Ellis My pastor, while quoting a Nirvana lyric during a sermon, accidentally got the number of years that have passed since the song’s release wrong, and then looked at me in way that even my non-Nirvana fan wife picked up on. After the service, he made a beeline to me – well, as … Continue reading Claiming Rock Music is the Devil’s Music Is, In Fact, a Devilish Claim
by John Ellis Did you know that being either right brained or left brained isn’t a thing? I mean, it’s a thing; it’s just not a real thing – it’s not a true thing. It’s a myth. A neuromyth, to be specific. Don’t tell people that, though. If you do, be aware that you do … Continue reading For the Love of Myths, Fast-Food Chains, and Fungible Truth: How Expressive Individualism Determines “Truth”
by John Ellis I recently watched The Descendants starring George Clooney. While the movie is merely okay, one of its main premises is an honest portrayal of much of parenting in society. Tragically, it’s probably even more accurate when the lens is narrowed onto the evangelical culture. The movie’s inciting incident is a boat accident … Continue reading There Is No Such Thing as a Backup Parent
by John Ellis Upon finding out that my wife was expecting our second child, I began praying for another daughter. With a highly intelligent little girl filled with curiosity and creativity lording over our household, I couldn’t imagine how a boy could best the advantages of having another girl. To be sure, my daughter had … Continue reading In Celebration of My Son Who Turns 10 Today
by John Ellis Critiquing complementarianism is risky business. Doing so carries the substantial prospect that you will be accused of being ideologically located somewhere on the proverbial slippery slope that terminates with you being voted Grand Marshall of Key West’s Pride Parade. And I get it. Really, I do. Considering the wild and wacky times … Continue reading Critiquing Complementarianism: Are Men and Women Different?
My mom with her her precious grandkids a few weeks before she met Jesus face-to-face. by John Ellis Years before the most recent financial crisis turned “staycation” into a buzzword, my mom was planning our family’s staycations. As a Christian schoolteacher married to an independent, fundamentalist Baptist pastor, she turned resourcefulness into a finely honed … Continue reading A Tribute to My Mom
by John Ellis Without any trace of shame, my friend turned on his barstool, looked me in the eyes, and said, “I regret not having had sex before I got married. I only know what it’s like to have sex with one woman and feel like I’m missing out.” In the aftermath of his confession, … Continue reading The Purity Culture’s Sins: Men Versus Women
(I wrote this in early 2016, and it remains one of my favorite articles that I've written.) by John Ellis Assuming normal physiology, humans don’t begin to taste deeply of physical death until sometime in their twenties. The day to day existence of children is punctuated by life. The brain is awakening – new sounds, … Continue reading Death’s Unnatural Intrusion Into Childhood
by John Ellis The final day of school before Christmas break was a big day for my family. It was the day we got our Christmas tree. After cleaning her classroom and packing up all the assorted gifts she had received from her students, my mom, with help from me and my siblings, would take … Continue reading How Many Christmas Presents Should Christian Parents Buy Their Children?